1. She might not be pregnant.
"Are you having a baby?" the maintenance man asks, looking up at me.
Suddenly, the small elevator seems that much smaller, but I take a deep breath and shake my head. "No, I'm just fat!"
"Uh oh" is the only reply he can muster. Not even "Sorry" or "That was silly of me to ask." Just "Uh oh."
This man wasn't the first to ask me if I was pregnant. In fact, he's the third person--one a friend, the other a store clerk--to ask me in a week, and every time, I answer the same way. It's beyond frustrating to know that people are thinking I'm pregnant when I'm not!
2. She might be pregnant but not ready to tell you.
These recent questions reminded me of the time a family member asked me if I was pregnant, and I said "no" even though I was. I was still in my third month of pregnancy with Equis, and I planned to share the news after I'd passed through my first trimester safely. It sucked to lie to my family, but it was my secret and I wanted to keep it that way.
After my awkward conversation with the maintenance man, I made my way into my apartment where my boyfriend sat on the futon rubbing his eyes.
"Another person just asked me if I was pregnant!" I called.
"Oh, gosh, babe. Another one?"
I stop in front of the full-length mirror to examine myself. I do look pregnant. The antidepressants I'm on are causing me to gain weight, and the weight is gathering mostly in my stomach, thighs and behind. But am I supposed to tell people who ask me if I'm pregnant, "Actually, I'm on medication that causes me to gain weight?" or should I just tell them to mind their own business?
"Ugh, I'm getting so fat," I pout.
"Babe, you're not fat. I like you this way. Stop worrying about what other people think."
All these people asking me if I'm pregnant is making me take second and third looks at my body. That doesn't help any in my quest to think more positively.
All in all, I think it's just rude for people to comment on/ask questions about my body. Honestly, if I'm pregnant and you need to know, I'll tell you! But please, don't ask me.
How would you respond to the "Are you pregnant?" question if you're not?
What reasons can you add to the "Reasons You Shouldn't Ask a Woman if She's Pregnant" list?